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Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships [David Schnarch PhD] on Amazon.com. *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. “A classic.” ―William H. Masters, M.D. Passionate Marriage has long been recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations, or love without conditions. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. 1993, ISBN 1-883319-00-5; Schnarch, David, Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships. Create a book Download as PDF Printable version.

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Passionate Marriage is recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. With a new preface by the author, this updated edition explores the ways we can keep passion alive and even reach the height of sexual and emotional fulfillment later in life. David Schnarch accompanies his inspirational message of attaining long-term happiness with proven techniques..more
Published April 27th 2009 by W. W. Norton & Company (first published 1997)
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Passionate Marriage David Schnarch Free DownloadJan 22, 2008Fairlyfeisty Dragonwagon rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone willing to self-confront in service of become their best self.
I read this book at a time of painful difficulty - would the much-cherished marriage I'd been in many years actually come to an end (unthinkable) or would we, or I, or him, find a way to get to the bottom of what 'went wrong' as we then thought, and from there, reinvent?
That was ten years ago. Schnarch wholly shifted my paradigm, not just on relationship but of everything. For starters, pain and difficulty don't mean something 'went wrong' but, rather, went right in the sense of.. marriage, li..more
Sep 10, 2008Lena rated it really liked it · review of another edition
Early in his career, Passionate Marriage author David Snarch found it odd that sex therapy and marital therapy were two entirely separate disciplines. He spent the next several decades refining his theory that what happens in the bedroom can be an important window into the dynamics of the greater marriage itself.
Though ostensibly about sex, Passionate Marriage is really about the process of individuation. Learning how to be an individual and a partner at the same time is no easy task for many of..more
Oct 22, 2013Nina Bradley rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
This is a book I needed to read when I was a teenager. My review of five stars is not based on how well the author writes or communicates, but rather how important I think this information is. We grow up with a distorted sense of what love and intimacy are all about. That is to say we think it is all about us and our needs. We seek to fulfill ourselves through our relationships and get our needs met and our very selves validated by other people. The Passionate Marriage approach (although I think..more
Nov 05, 2007Teresa Catlin rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
Although this book is almost as weighty as a textbook, I HIGHLY recommend it! It is the first NEW point of view on marriage and relationships that I'd read for a very long time. It is not really about sex--at least not for its own sake--but looks at sex as the 'crucible' in which a lot of emotional issues are worked out.
It is a book that I think everyone, if they were willing to read it, would get a lot of insight from. It's interesting to me that so few of the people I've given it to or recomme..more
Feb 25, 2013Myridian rated it it was ok · review of another edition
This is Schnarch's attempt at merging marital and sex therapy. My reaction to this book is very mixed. On the one hand I think that there are a lot of valuable points in the book. On the other, I really disliked reading it, only finished it because I was getting CE credits for it (available on http://www.ce-credit.com/ btw) and felt I had to read every word, and feel there are some serious limitations to his conceptualization.
So first the good. Scharch's two main points are 1) that self-soothing..more
Two things I did not like: 1)The part that degenerates into self-help. (I loathe self-help books because they tell me what to do.) 2) The title. A boring but more apt title might be 'Understanding Identity, Sexuality & Intimacy'. That said, I can't recall ever reading a book the way I read this one. I cried, I reread, I underlined and starred, I put it down for a few minutes every now and then so I could think. Because I have spent the past five or so years struggling intensely with identity..more
Jan 07, 2013Kerim rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
In the work I've done helping others with their relationships, I've had the opportunity to read plenty of self-help books on relationships. Most of the time I find the books useless, if not harmful. On the recommendation of a friend I checked this book out from the library. Now I'm buying it. I'm also recommending it to every person I know who is ready to make improvements in ALL of their relationships--including their relationships with their self.
While other books focus on trying to communicat..more
Dec 04, 2013Margareta Ackerman rated it it was amazing
Without a shred of a doubt, the best book on marriage out there.
This is the book that saved my marriage. I recommend it to all my friends and everyone I meet whose marriage is in trouble.
Unlike the great majority of other books on the subject, this one explains that marriage isn't just about being nice to each other, listening, understanding, caring, etc. It is a complex system with inevitable hard times. It explains how your relationships fit into your life a whole, and how a marital crisis is..more
This is required reading for couples, and relationship therapists, for sure; chapters 1-2 and 11-13 in particular (if you don't have the time or interest to get through the whole thing). I do think, however, that this book suffers from some of the same things the other marriage bookshelf standard 'Hold Me Tight' does—both authors oversell their theory (in this case 'differentiation'; in the latter, 'attachment'). When you're a hammer..
Yet, both are very useful, and shed some fascinating light o..more
Aug 17, 2007Megan rated it did not like it · review of another edition
Although a noble idea and a potentially juicy topic, the clinical nature of this book made it difficult to slog through to the actually useful information..wait, was there any actually useful information? I'm not sure. I couldn't get through the first few chapters.
Amazing how an author can take a subject as promising and fun as sex and intimacy and make it sterilized and boring. Oh well. My advice to the seeker, read 'Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving' by the Muir's if you are really interes..more
I LOVE THIS BOOK! Schnarch’s thesis can be condensed into the following quote, “Trusting me isn’t going to change you; trusting (and mobilizing) yourself will. The endpoint of differentiation is being willing and able to trust yourself” What is so fantastic about Schnarch theory is that its application is not limited to the context of marriage; but any intimate relationship. The process of differentiation is a journey of discovering oneself and can only occur in the context of close relationship..more
I hesitated putting this book on my virtual bookshelf because some may find the language and details offensive or too descriptive. Those parts can be skimmed over if you want. However, this is not a sex 'how to' book. It is all about maturing in a committed relationship (marriage) and confronting yourself and acting out of integrity. The crucible of marriage, as David Schnarch explains, is all about a marriage falling together when it appears to be falling apart. Differentiation is the key to a..more
Mar 24, 2010Tracy McMillan rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
This is one of the best relationship books ever written! I have a dog-eared copy that is going on ten years old.. and every time I open it, I learn something new. An absolute MUST READ for every woman who has ever been in a relationship.
Sep 07, 2012Michelle rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
A great book for understanding and dismantling the brick walls - those arguments that have become impasses.
From the book blurb: 'Schnarch's fundamental lesson is differentiation -- the often threatening process of defining yourself as separate from your partner, which inevitably draws you closer to your partner than you ever dreamed possible.'
The author describes and outlines the processes of differentiation and fusion, how they each play out, look, and feel, and how people get from one to the..more
Oct 18, 2011Michele Fogal marked it as to-read · review of another edition
The Intro to this book was very pompous sounding as in, this is the greatest book ever and I wouldn't change a thing, but who knows, maybe he has some great things to say.
I like the concept of differentiation - figuring out what you really believe in without influence or pressure from anyone else. That is a great idea when linked with how to be intimate. First, be wholly yourself.
Also this idea that we think intimacy is disclosing something personal to someone and then having them validate our e..more
Jan 20, 2009Carli rated it really liked it · review of another edition
I wasn't sure if I should include this book on my virtual bookshelf because there is a lot that might (will) offend the lds person. The language can be frank and graphic and Dr Schnarch includes peeks into the sex lives of his patients that is often just too much. I mean, you can skim or skip those parts, obviously, but things tend to sneak into view. So I don't recommend this lightly or broadly. Having said that, I think that he includes those things in good faith (from his point of view) and n..more
Aug 16, 2007Duc rated it really liked it · review of another edition
Differentiation, self-validation. I randomly picked up this book and B&N. Then flip through it. It talks frankly. I was shock to find the author's differentiations between sex, love making, and f*ing. This greatly impressed as most book of this nature doesn't talk honestly about the subject. At the same time, I also picked up 'Seven Levels of Intimacy'. After reading some of the Goodreads reviews, I'm convinced that I should read this book before any other self-help books on relationships.
Dr..more
Dec 24, 2013kazerniel rated it really liked it · review of another edition
Disregard the title, it's a very good book for anyone in long-term relationship. (It even mentions same-sex couples in the intro, which is pretty good for a book from 1997.)
A very useful book, I learnt a lot from it about differentiation, self-validation and how to grow and mature emotionally in a relationship.
The only off-putting chapter was the one about how to use one's sexual aggression in a constructive way in a relationship. It's just something I - as a sexual abuse survivor - absolutely c..more
Jul 05, 2010Esonja rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
I am clearly the most differentiated!! Me!!
Or, I am clearly interested in beefing up for Marriage Olympics. Let's just call this guy Béla Károlyi and be done with it, eh? I have gotten so much use out of this book, I'd like to say I took up temporary residence in the crucible for a few months. Really great for me and mine.
Jun 10, 2007Kelly rated it really liked it · review of another edition
Recommends it for: those in long-term relationships who's sex life is flagging (or has in the past)
This book was kinda hard to read because, well, that kinda stuff is *private* in my world, eh? However Schnartch delves into sex and the negotiation it's really about - as well as his great concept of differentiation - that really impressed me. It was a great book, despite a small handful of the Dr.'s own sexist references and outdated concepts.
Nov 27, 2009Jenny rated it it was ok · review of another edition
The first two chapters are quite good abouts differentiation and its importance in relationship. I stopped reading shortly after that as the quality of the book and the extent of the author's ego threatened to negate anything useful he had to say in the beginning.
Absolutely incredible book.
Definitely a must read for any couple. Shows us how to keep love and intimacy alive. Well worth a read.

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Feb 19, 2009Tanish rated it really liked it · review of another edition
it's kind of slow going and good food for thought- a refreshingly different perspective on relationships so far..
This is a must read for anyone who is in a committed, monogamous relationship. I also recommend it for people who are single.
If you are among my many friends who are also members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, stick around until the end for some notes specifically for you.
This book did a lot for me. It gave me a new lens through which to view myself, my marriage, and all of my human relationships. It also helps me see the behavior of others, both in their marriages and oth..more
May 12, 2018Jill rated it really liked it
This is one part human development/attachment textbook, one part therapeutic case studies, one part marriage/sex therapist memoir. Recommended to me by a friend whose marriage had a rough patch a few years ago and she attributes much of their success working through it to this book. If you skip the rest of my review, read FairlyFeisty’s below— she says it precisely.
Written in 1997, he feels slightly dated in tone, but still progressive conceptually. Feels a little like what if your slightly hipp..more
Mar 08, 2016Nikki Morse rated it really liked it
I picked up this book to explore the concept of differentiation - of holding on to yourself while in connection with others. Schnarch's theory draws from the family therapist Murray Bowen, and is really distinct from much other relationship theory, which often holds that current relationships salve the wounds of past harms in a direct way - if you didn't get enough attention and attachment as a child, the solution is more attention and attachment now, right?? His theory is that this trauma or wo..more
I gave a good rating because David Schnarch has a brilliant philosophy and truly self-discloses himself. This is not just about sex, but about being brave enough to let our spouses (or long-term partners) see our genuine selves. This book is not about compromise with your partner, but rather about facing ourselves. For one person to do more of something and the other person to do less of something for the sake of compromise can cause resentment overtime. But to face yourself and ask 'do I really..more
Dec 18, 2014Kevan rated it really liked it
Intense, blunt, enlightening, inspiring. A vision for marriage that transcends mundane visions I've heard before, rooted in deep clinical study. Schnarch (what a name) presents marriage as the pinnacle of human evolution, deep connection as the ultimate path to eroticism, and straight-ahead conflict as the necessary door to long-term happiness. I only made it through 45% of this book before abandoning it earlier this year (it just seemed so lengthy; but reading on an eReader I had a hard time ga..more
Jan 25, 2013Amy rated it really liked it · review of another edition
Title is misleading. This isn't a 'how-to' book on how to have a more passionate marriage. It is more of a memoir of a psychotherapist about some of the couples he's treated in his practice throughout the years. I was fascinated by some of the stories and the processes these couples had to work through to improve themselves in order to improve their marriages, only because I've worked through my own therapy process in the past for recovering from depression. In all of the couples were partners w..more
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David Schnarch is a licensed clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author of numerous books and articles on intimacy, sexuality, and relationships. He is the Director of the Crucible® Institute and his work has attracted clients and students from across the globe. His book Passionate Marriage is a perennial bestseller, offering the general public his revolutionary approach in a pragm..more
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Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations, or love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism or complete love. Each area of expertise has a certain way of describing unconditional love, but most will agree that it is that type of love which has no bounds and is unchanging.

In Christianity, unconditional love is thought to be part of the Four Loves; affection, friendship, eros, and charity.[1] In ethology, or the study of animal behavior, unconditional love would refer to altruism which in turn refers to the behavior by individuals that increases the fitness of another while decreasing the fitness of the individual committing the act. In psychology, unconditional love refers to a state of mind in which one has the goal of increasing the welfare of another, despite any evidence of benefit for oneself. The term is also widely used in family and couples counseling manuals. Dogs are often considered to be examples of animals displaying unconditional love.[2]

  • 4Religious perspective

Conditional love[edit]

Some authors make a distinction between unconditional love and conditional love. In conditional love: love is 'earned' on the basis of conscious or unconscious conditions being met by the lover, whereas in unconditional love, love is 'given freely' to the loved one 'no matter what'. Loving is primary. Conditional love requires some kind of finite exchange, whereas unconditional love is seen as infinite and measureless. Unconditional love should not be mistaken with unconditional dedication: unconditional dedication or 'duty' refers to an act of the will irrespective of feelings (e.g. a person may consider they have a duty to stay with someone); unconditional love is an act of the feelings irrespective of will.

Unconditional love separates the individual from her or his behaviors. However, the individual may exhibit behaviors that are unacceptable in a particular situation. To begin with a simple example: one acquires a puppy. The puppy is cute, playful, and the owner's heart swells with love for this new family member. Then the puppy urinates on the floor. The owner does not stop loving the puppy, but needs to modify the behavior through training and education.

Humanistic psychology[edit]

Humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers spoke of an unconditional positive regard and dedication towards one single support. Rogers stated that the individual needed an environment that provided them with genuineness, authenticity, openness, self-disclosure, acceptance, empathy, and approval.[3]

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Also Abraham Maslow supported the unconditional love perspective by saying that in order to grow, an individual had to have a positive perspective of themselves.[4] In Man's Search For Meaning,Logotherapist and Holocaust Survivor Viktor Frankl draws parallels between the human capacity to love unconditionally and living a meaningful life. Frankl writes, 'Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the essence of another human being unless he loves him. [..] Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize .. potentialities.'[5] For Frankl, unconditional love is a means by which we enable and reach human potential.

Neurological basis[edit]

There has been some evidence to support a neural basis for unconditional love, showing that it stands apart from other types of love.

In a study conducted by Mario Beauregard and his colleagues, using an fMRI procedure, they studied the brain imaging of participants who were shown different sets of images either referring to 'maternal love' (unconditional love) or 'romantic love'. Seven areas of the brain became active when these participants called to mind feelings of unconditional love. Three of these were similar to areas that became active when it came to romantic love. The other four active parts were different, showing certain brain regions associated with rewarding aspects, pleasurable (non sexual) feelings, and human maternal behaviors are activated during the unconditional love portions of the experiment. Through the associations made between the different regions, results show that the feeling of love for someone without the need of being rewarded is different from the feeling of romantic love.[6]

Along with the idea of 'mother love', which is associated with unconditional love, a study found patterns in the neuroendocrine system and motivation-affective neural system. Using the fMRI procedure, mothers watched a video of them playing with their children in a familiar environment, like home. The procedure found part of the amygdala and nucleus accumbens were responsive on levels of emotion and empathy. Emotion and empathy (compassion) are descriptives of love, therefore it supports the idea that the neural occurrences are evidence of unconditional love.[7]

Religious perspective[edit]

Christianity[edit]

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In Christianity, the term 'unconditional love' may be used to indicate God's love for a person irrespective of that person's love for God. The term is not explicitly used in the Bible and advocates for God's conditional or unconditional love, using different passages or interpretations to support their point of view, are both encountered. The civil rights leader Martin Luther King Jr. was quoted as saying 'I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality'.[8]

The main use of unconditional in Christianity is the assertion 'That God so loved the world..' In other words, God loves the world enough to suffer for us without preconditions. There is then that postcondition of actually accepting that Grace. The two together are not fundamentally different from psychology's unconditional positive regard with the added proviso that some actions are inherently flawed and that only God knows the true nature and consequence of our actions. Whereas psychology's unconditional positive regard allows one to fail utterly since the psychologist can not demand that we take care of the whole world since he has no fundamentally better idea of how to do that than the patient. The consequence is that we need to be in a relationship with God who does know how. However, this view is not particularly supported by scriptures found in the Bible. Jesus himself said that receiving his love is based on condition, specifically the condition of following his commandments (example at John chapter 15 verses 10 and 14). Other conditions are found throughout the Bible.

Buddhism[edit]

In Buddhism one of the most important concepts is called Bodhicitta. There are two kinds of Bodhicitta. They are Relative and Absolute Bodhicitta. In Relative Bodhicitta one learns about the desire to gain the understanding of unconditional love, which in Buddhism is expressed as Loving-Kindness and Compassion. The point is to develop Bodhicitta for all living (sentient) beings. Absolute Bodhicitta is a more esoteric Tantric Teaching. Understanding the principle of Loving-Kindness and Compassion is expressed when one treats all living beings as if he or she was or had been (in former lives) their own mother. One's mother will do anything for the benefit of her child. The most loving of all relationships is that between a mother and her child. Of course if all beings treated all other living beings as they would their own mother then there would be much less enmity in this world. The importance of this cannot be overstated. At every moment one has the opportunity to make a choice how to act, and to be completely mindful of one's actions means that in every interaction with another being one will consciously act with Loving-Kindness and Compassion toward every other being no matter what the nature of that interaction.

Hinduism[edit]

Hinduism and Buddhism, the Sanskrit word Bhakti is apparently used by some to refer to the concept of unconditional love, even though its root meaning seems to be 'participate'. Bhakti or Bhakthi is unconditional religious devotion of a devotee in worship of a divine.

Islam[edit]

Unconditional love can only be directed to Allah.[citation needed] The highest spiritual attainment in Islam is related to the love of God. 'Yet there are men who take (for worship) others besides God, as equal (with God): They love them as they should love God. But those of Faith are overflowing in their love for God.'[9]

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O lovers! The religion of the love of God is not found in Islam alone.
In the realm of love, there is neither belief, nor unbelief.[10]

In Islamic Sufism, unconditional love is the basis for the divine love Ishq-e-Haqeeqi, elaborated by many great Muslim saints to date. Prominent mystics explain the concept in its entirety and reveal its hardcore reality.[11]

Rabia of Basra was the one who first set forth the doctrine of Divine Love known as Ishq-e-Haqeeqi[12] and is widely considered to be the most important of the early renunciant, one mode of piety that would eventually become labeled as Sufism.[13]

She prayed:

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'O Lord, if I worship You because of Fear of Hell,
then burn me in Hell;

If I worship You because I desire Paradise,
then exclude me from Paradise;

But if I worship You for Yourself alone,
then deny me not your Eternal Beauty.[14]

Ishq itself means to love God selflessly and unconditionally. For Rumi, 'Sufism' itself is Ishq and not the path of asceticism (zuhd).[15] According to Sultan Bahoo, Ishq means to serve God unconditionally by devoting one's entire life to Him and asking no reward in return.[16]

Other religions[edit]

Neopaganism in general, and Wicca in particular, commonly use a traditional inspirational text, Charge of the Goddess, which affirms that the Goddess's 'law is love unto all beings'.[citation needed]Mohism, China c. 500BCE bases its entire premise on the supremacy of such an element, comparing one's duty to the indiscriminate generosity of 'The Sky', or 'Heaven', in contrast to Confucianism which based its model of society on family love and duty. Later schools engaged in much debate on exactly how unconditional one could be in actual society. (cf '..who is my neighbour?' in 'The Good Samaritan' story of Jesus of Nazareth )

Unitarian Universalism, though not having a set religious creed or doctrine, generally accepts the belief that all human begins are worthy and in need of unconditional love though charity in the community and spiritual understanding. The Unitarian Universalist Association explicitly argues this in the Seven Principles, where the 'inherent worth and dignity' of all humans is a regularly-cited source arguing for unconditional love.

Notes[edit]

  1. ^Lewis, C.S. (1960). The Four Loves. Ireland: Harvest Books. ISBN0-15-632930-1.
  2. ^'Research finds brain associated affection similar pets humans'. Retrieved 23 June 2017.
  3. ^Rogers, C. (1973). The Interpersonal Relationship: The Core of Guidance. In, Raymond M. Maslowski, Lewis B. Morgan (Eds.), Interpersonal Growth and Self Actualization in Groups (pp. 176–189). MSS Information Corporation. ISBN0842202897.
  4. ^Maslow, A.H. (1961). 'Peak Experiences as Acute Identity Experiences'. Am. J. Psychoanal. 21: 254–260.
  5. ^Frankl, Viktor. 'Man's Search for Meaning'. www.sonoma.edu. Retrieved 2016-09-23.
  6. ^Beauregard, Mario; Courtemanche, Jérôme; Paquette, Vincent; St-Pierre, Évelyne Landry (2009-05-15). 'The neural basis of unconditional love'. Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging. Elsevier. 172 (2): 93–98. doi:10.1016/j.pscychresns.2008.11.003. ISSN0925-4927. Retrieved 2011-12-30. Lay summary – MailOnline (2009-04-12). These results suggest that unconditional love is mediated by a distinct neural network relative to that mediating other emotions.
  7. ^Atzil, Shir; Talma Hendler; Ruth Feldman (2011). 'Specifying the neurobiological basis of human attachment: Brain, hormones, and behavior in synchronous and intrusive mothers'. Neuropsychopharmacology. 36: 2603–2615.
  8. ^'Martin Luther King's ringing call for freedom'. Kansas City: Kansas City Star. 2012-01-16. Retrieved 2012-04-10.
  9. ^Quran 2:165
  10. ^Rumi's Quatrain no. 768, translated by Gamard & Farhadi. Versions of this quatrain have been made by Shahram Shiva, 'Hush: Don't Tell God', p. 17 and by Azima Kolin (based on Mafi), 'Rumi: Whispers of the Beloved', p. 71. [`âshiq to yaqîn dân, ke musulmân na-bûd dar maZhab-é `ishq, kufr-o îmân na-bûd]
  11. ^Mohammad Najib ur Rehman, Hazrat Sakhi Sultan. Ishq-e-Haqeeqi (Divine Love). Sultan ul Faqr Publications Regd. ISBN9789699795183.
  12. ^Margaret Smith, Rabi'a The Mystic and Her Fellow-Saints in Islam, Cambridge Library Collection, 1928.
  13. ^Hanif, N. (2002). Biographical Encyclopaedia of Sufis: Central Asia and Middle East. Sarup & Sons. pp. 108–10. ISBN9788176252669.
  14. ^Khushwant Singh (12 February 2013). The Freethinker's Prayer Book: And some word to live by. Aleph Book Company. p. 35. ISBN978-93-82277-87-3.
  15. ^Seyed Ghahreman Safavi, Simon Weightman. Rumi's Mystical Design: Reading the Mathnawi Book One. SUNY Press. ISBN978-1-438-42796-6.
  16. ^Sult̤ān Mohammad Najib-ur-Rehman. Sultan Bahoo: The Life and Teachings. Sultan-ul-Faqr Publications. ISBN978-9-699-79518-3.

References[edit]

  • Kramer, J. and Alstead D., The Guru Papers: Masks of Authoritarian Power, 1993, ISBN1-883319-00-5
  • Schnarch, David, Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships, 1998, ISBN0-8050-5826-5
  • Schnarch, David, Constructing the Sexual Crucible; An Integration of Sexual and Marital Therapy,
  • Schnarch, David, Resurrecting Sex: Resolving Sexual Problems and Revolutionizing Your Relationship.
  • Stendhal, On Love: The Classic Analysis of Romantic Love
  • Tennov, Dorothy, Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love, 1999
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